Going through a divorce is one of life’s biggest challenges for families. As tough as it is on the parents, its impact is equally, if not more, profound on the children involved. Safeguarding their happiness and emotional wellbeing during this uncertain time should be your number-one mission.
Although divorce marks the end of a marriage, it doesn’t mean the end of your role as parents. If possible, you may look to co-parent your kids through this period and beyond. It’s an approach that many separated parents view as essential to help them emerge from the process feeling secure and loved from both sides.
If you’d prefer to do things amicably, we’ve put together some guidance to do things properly and help your youngsters feel supported during and after the divorce proceedings.
Use professionals to draft a fair and legally binding divorce agreement
From the word go, it’s a good idea to enlist the services of UK divorce lawyers to guide you both through the process. Although you don’t have to complete divorce proceedings using a lawyer, a qualified professional has experienced all types of divorce scenarios. They can work closely to secure the right arrangement that protects the needs of you and your kids.
If you’re both keen to keep things civil, divorce lawyers can help to draw up a legally binding arrangement surrounding finances and the care of your children.
Remain open and respectful with communications
Open lines of communication are essential to effective co-parenting. Even at times when emotions may be running high during the divorce, it’s important to be upfront and honest when it comes to your kids and their needs, as well as any concerns arising. If you find it hard to talk face-to-face or even over the phone, you could find a co-parenting app to share information or email updates to one another to maintain focus and organisation.
Be consistent with your routine
When it comes to your co-parenting approach, work together to provide a stable, consistent routine for your children. Try to design a mutually convenient schedule or rota which ensures both parents get to spend time with your kids. This schedule should cover the school week, weekends and even the school holidays. It’s a mature way of doing things, giving your kids assurances that, despite the divorce, their lives will remain as predictable as possible.
Celebrate milestones together
Divorce proceedings are by no means an overnight thing. They can take several months or even years to reach a divorce settlement. This means it’s highly likely that your kids will have major milestones and events in their lives in the meantime. It could be a landmark birthday, a school performance, university graduation or a sporting event. Try your best to show a united front for your kids’ biggest moments. Demonstrate to them that you’re both there to support and cherish them. All of which creates lasting, positive memories for your kids.
Co-parenting during divorce proceedings is emotionally draining. However, with patience, maturity and one-track focus on your kids’ needs, it’s realistic to navigate this uncertain time for the good of your children.
Further reading:
- Summer safety tips for kids
- Find out if you’re eligible for divorce
